Entering into therapy has the potential to be the most transformative thing you do with your life. This will be greatly impacted by the therapist you decide to move forward with. For this reason, finding a good fit is very important.
As I tell most people that find their way to my couch, finding the right therapist is as important as finding the right pair of jeans. And the process can feel much the same.
There are many different approaches, orientations, specialties, modalities, and to be honest, personalities when it comes to therapy. Therapists range in age, gender identity, allyship, belief systems, training, degree, specialty, and background. All of these will have an impact on your own experience. When it comes to finding the right fit, here are a few things to keep in mind.
Do they take your insurance?
Where are they located and/or do they offer telehealth?
What is their area of expertise/preferred client base to work with?
How much experience do they have?
How responsive are they to your inquiries?
What feeling do you get from reading their profile/visiting their web page?
As you ask yourself these questions, which can help to narrow your search, it is also important to keep this in mind. Research backs up the efficacy of many different modalities (CBT, DBT, EMDR, ACT, IFS, ect) when it comes to the type of therapy you are looking for. However, it is also very consistently noted that what matters the most in positive outcomes is the relationship that you have with your therapist. This is something that you will most likely not be able to determine until you have had a conversation or two.
For some, you will find someone who feels like a good match the first time.
For others, it may feel like you have to meet with a few before you commit. Remember, this is your therapy. Your money you are spending. It should be with someone you feel comfortable with. A good therapist will understand this and encourage you to find someone who feels like a better match. If they don’t, it’s a good sign they were never going to work out.
Here are a few ways I recommend finding a good fit:
Use a consultation call to feel out the energy. While you may feel nervous, you should also feel safe.
Ask your friends if they know of anyone or have recommendations.
Read reviews when available.
Notice how your body feels while you are in their presence, or even in early correspondence.
Don’t be afraid to ask your therapist in early emails about all of the questions you may have.
Good luck in your search!
